There is a difference between constructive criticism and destructive criticism. Constructive criticism is honest and is meant to help the individual that is being criticized. Constructive criticism is thought out and has good intention behind it. Destructive criticism is negative and usually formed out of emotion. What I mean by that is that usually when someone destructively criticizes you, it’s because the topic or subject has hit a nerve. I believe that people destructively criticize others when there is something lacking in their own lives. I believe jealousy plays a big role in this. So instead of focusing on a way to build up their own lives, people who destructively criticize spend their time trying to tear down others.
I took this photo in Chicago, it’s a view of underneath the bean at Millennium Park. Well I call it the bean, but officially it’s called the Cloud Gate. The distorted reflections in this photo remind me of Michael Jackson’s song, “Man in the Mirror” because I think that when we destructively criticize, we have a distorted view of ourselves. It’s so easy to see what we think are problems in others, we often fail to see the problems in our own lives. If we did, we wouldn’t be so quick to destructively criticize.
I’m starting with the man in the mirror
I’m asking him to change his ways
And no message could have been any clearer
If you want to make the world a better place
Take a look at yourself, and then make a change
~ Michael Jackson, Man in the Mirror
I’m not saying that you shouldn’t criticize at all. Although we’d love to think so, things can’t be positive all the time. If you feel that passionate about something then by all means, go criticize. Yes, you do have the right to criticize and make your opinions known, but remember that people have the right to respond and react that your words and your criticism. It’s not a one way street.
Do you often find yourself criticizing others destructively? How do you deal with someone destructively criticizes you?